Empathy and how it relates to other Values: How does empathy relate to other values? This
is a place to make the connection to each value.
Empathy and:
Authenticity
Care
Compassion Compassion is
empathy applied to suffering and pain.
Competition
Empathy,
Education, and Musical Chairs by Nadine Dolby
As it turns out, however, recent scientific
advancements in the field of neuroscience are showing that actually,
these parents--and everyone else who believes that people areonlyinherently
competitive--are wrong. Instead, human brains are actually primed forbothcompetition
and cooperation: which side of us emerges as more dominant is
dependent on our culture.
Everyone Isn't a Winner--and Shouldn't Be by Laura Zax
How to compete in a way that creates "good" winners and losers.
Empathy goes hand-in-hand with collaboration. Does that mean that
empathetic parenting and teaching should be devoid of competition?
It’s natural to want to shield our kids—whether our students or our
offspring—from losing. But eliminating competition from our children’s
lives would be doing them a disservice. The world is full of
competition, full of opportunities to win out and to lose out.
Applying to college, entering the job market, navigating romantic
relationships—all of these inevitable “real” life experiences will
involve wins and losses.
Cooperation
"Empathy also plays a role in
cooperation. One needs to pay close attention to the activities and
goals of others to cooperate effectively... Effective cooperation
requires being exquisitely in tune with the emotional states and goals
of others." Frans de Waal
Democracy
"The ability to recognize oneself in
the other and the other in oneself is a deeply democratizing
experience. Empathy is the soul of democracy. It is an acknowledgment
that each life is unique, unalienable, and deserving of equal
consideration in the public square. The evolution of empathy and the
evolution of democracy have gone hand in hand throughout history. The
more empathic the culture, the more democratic its values and
governing institutions. The less empathic the culture, the more
totalitarian its values and governing institutions. While apparent,
it's strange how little attention has been paid to the inextricable
relationship between empathic extension and democratic expansion in
the study of history and evolution of governance.
Reimagining freedom, equality, and democracy from an empathic
perspective has far-ranging consequences for the kind of society that
we choose to live in."
Jeremy Rifkin
'Rather than taking
anti-depressants, people suffering from
depression have an inexpensive way out -
practising acts of kindness and
compassion, new research claims.
Acts of kindness or compassion might serve
as an effective treatment for depressed
people, say researchers from the
University of California, Riverside, and
the Duke University Medical Centre. '
Not surprisingly, people who
suffer from depression often have difficult
romantic relationships -- when they have
them at all.
researchers also found that higher levels of
depressive symptoms in women predicted
partners’ lower empathic accuracy regarding
the women’s negative moods and relationship
feelings.
As the researchers note, the data suggest
that a woman’s depression affects not just
herself, but also her partner. Depressed
women’s relationships are likely to suffer
doubly as well — not only is her empathy
accuracy lowered by her depression, but her
partner’s empathic accuracy is also lowered.
She can’t read her partner as well, and he
is unable to accurately read her mood or
relationship feelings either.
Video
by Edwin Rutsch. A one day long conference on happiness at
Stanford University. The importance of empathy, self-compassion,
compassion and connecting with others to being happy was a constant
theme..
"And it turns out that this fear of having compassion
for yourself is strongly correlated with fear of having compassion for
others, and a lack of willingness to extend compassion to others. Self
compassion is not letting ourselves off the hook and being self
indulgent, it's about choosing to use our own happiness and our own
desire for meaning and connection with others as our primary
motivation, as opposed to using guilt shame and fear as our primary
motivation."
The director says, "A persons values have a huge impact in their
happiness, So if someone values things likeower, fame and good looks,
social status - people who becomes successful at those goals o money pr
not, tend to be less happy then people who value things like
compassion, empathy and cooperation, wanting to make the world a
better place.
The core of human nature, I think, is based on empathy
and compassion. It's extremely rare to find someone that does not
empathize in some way or form naturally. The Dali Lama said it best,
it's not a religious thing, it's not a political idea, this is the way
we are born, this is in our blood.
Empathy, compassion, living by the golden rule, all of those things
are so critical to, not only to your own personal happiness, but to
the sustainability of our societies and of the human race. So empathy
is, I think, one of the core ingredients, not only for a happy life,
but of a happy world.
The human emotion that needs to be tuned
the most, and that the happiest people exhibit is empathy
Empathy, in it's base form, keeps the
world working.
Basic empathy is a trait that serial
murderers, have no empathy. Psychopaths show a lack of empathy
What is the trait that people who are
treated as heroes show? high levels of empathy.
It's the empathy, that we feel the other
person
The happier you are, the more empathetic
you become,
the more connected to communities,
the more you're likely to be successful
Justice
Kindness
Love
Nonviolence
Oneness
Peace
"Learning to stand in
somebody else's shoes to see through their eyes, that's how peace
begins. And it's up to you to make that happen." Barack Obama
“By peace we mean the capacity to transform conflicts
with empathy, without violence, and creatively - a never-ending
process”Johan
Galtung
"As you travel through the Middle East what keeps on
striking home to me is how similar everyone is, and yet the degree to
which we can find differences to fight wars over. It requires a great
deal of empathy, I think, between various sides to overcome this
history and live in peace." Barack
Obama
"we remember those who are less fortunate, .... and
at this sacred time of year let us join together across denominations,
religions and cultures tomake
a habit of empathyand
reach out to those most in need. To share the blessings we enjoy and
to advance the cause of peace in all corners of our world."
Barack Obama
"we are constantly striving for peace, we are doubling
up on our diplomacy, we are going to actively engage, we are going to
try tosee
the world through other people's eyes and not just our own"
Barack Obama
2008-02-02 PBS Interview 2nd
of 2
How do we learn the attributes of empathy
What I found in my research is that the opposite of experiencing shame
is experiencing empathy. Shame cannot survive empathy. I think empathy
is tough, I think we have some natural tendencies to care for our
fellow humans, but we kind of unlearn empathy, as a way to survive
almost. So being empathic is about connecting with your
experience,.... If I can dig deep and connect to what it is your
feeling, and express that back... so you know your not alone. Empathy
is hugely important, as an added plus it's highly coordinated with
everything from leadership skills, family functioning, good parenting,
- it's just the essential emotion...
