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Culture of Empathy Builder:  Danny Penman

 

Is Empathy Our Most Dangerous and
Self-Indulgent Emotion?

Danny Penman

 

Danny Penman is a journalist and author. He has worked for the BBC and "The Independent" and is a feature and comment writer for the "London Daily Mail". He holds a PhD in biochemistry and a postgraduate diploma in newspaper journalism. He is author and coauthor of several books on Mindfulness including, "Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan to Finding Peace in a Frantic World" and "The Art of Breathing." He wrote an article which was critical of empathy entitled, Empathy Our Most Dangerous and Self-Indulgent Emotion? We dialogue with Danny about his article. He writes;

 

Empathy is, in some ways, a necessary precursor to compassion. It provides the motivational force to actually relieve another's distress. But it can also be a 'negative' or even a coercive emotion because it is ethically neutral...

So empathy alone can be quite dangerous (and arguably a little self-indulgent). To my mind, empathy carries with it a slight tinge of entertainment or even voyeurism...

We might learn to deal with them with intelligence and compassion, rather than risk making them worse with empathy...


My article seems to have ruffled quite a few feathers. You should see the comments. I was hoping to clarify a few points and perhaps start a debate but unfortunately a lot of people have taken it far too personally.


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Is Empathy Our Most Dangerous and Self-Indulgent Emotion?
by Danny Penman  
January 31, 2018
"Empathy is, in some ways, a necessary precursor to compassion. It provides the motivational force to actually relieve another’s distress. But it can also be a ‘negative’ or even a coercive emotion because it is ethically neutral.."
 

 

Article: List of Criticisms of Empathy

  • Empathy gets confused with compassion.
     "compassion is active whereas empathy is passive."
     "Empathy is, in some ways, a necessary precursor to compassion"
    " A rather brutal analogy highlights the difference: A torturer will put a gun to your head. An empathic torturer will put the gun to your child’s head. A compassionate one will put the gun down…. "

  • Empathy helps torturer be a better torturer

  • Empathy is Dangerous
     "empathy alone can be quite dangerous (and arguably a little self-indulgent). "

  • Empathy is Self-Indulgent
     "empathy alone can be quite dangerous (and arguably a little self-indulgent). "

  • Empathy can be a Coercive
    "But it can also be a ‘negative’ or even a coercive emotion because it is ethically neutral."

  • Empathy can be a ‘Negative'
    "But it can also be a ‘negative’ or even a coercive emotion because it is ethically neutral."

  • Empathy is Ethically Neutral.
    "But it can also be a ‘negative’ or even a coercive emotion because it is ethically neutral."

  • Empathy can be voyeuristic

  • Empathy carries with it a slight tinge of entertainment or even voyeurism

  • Empathy can drag us into wars
    "
    Dark political and economic forces can also use our natural sense of empathy to drag us into interminable wars over which we can have no long term influence. "

  • Empathy can be highly damaging to mental heal

  •  "Empathy in the Twenty-First century can also be highly damaging to mental health and well-being. "

  • Empathy can be highly damaging well-being
    "Empathy then ensures that they eat their way into our soul and corrode our mental wellbeing."

  • Empathy makes the worlds problems worse
    "Perhaps then, if we can collectively learn to think and act more creatively, we might just be able to deal with the world’s problems more effectively. We might learn to deal with them with intelligence and compassion, rather than risk making them worse with empathy."
     

 


 

To Do

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  • Cultivate compassion instead of empathy

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