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Culture of Empathy Builder:   Warren Farrell

 

Mutual Empathy with Men, Woman, Children & Families

Warren Farrell

Warren Farrell is an American educator, activist and author of numerous books on men's and women's issues. He is often considered "the father of the men's movement," but he started out as a vocal feminist and was a board member of the New York City chapter of the National Organization for Women in the early 1970s.

In this interview, we discuss the importance of mutual empathy with men, woman, children, families and society.
 

"Empathy is at the core of family stability and love.
I’ve never had a couple come to me and say,
I want a divorce; my partner understands me."

"Humans have spent (10k+) years learning to fight
and debate with the other side, and almost
no time learning to listen and empathize."

"Teaching the child to treat boundaries seriously teaches the child to respect the rights and needs of others. Thinking of another's needs creates empathy."
 Warren Farrell

 



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 Warren Farrell Empathy Quotes
  • "Empathy is at the core of family stability and love. I’ve never had a couple come to me and say, I want a divorce; my partner understands me." - Warren Farrell

  • "Humans have spent (10k+) years learning to fight and debate with the other side, and almost no time learning to listen and empathize." - Warren Farrell

  • "Any guy who’s played team sports has practiced a skill I call “team sport empathy”: he’s practiced focusing on anticipating the other team’s moves. That means figuring out their way of looking at the situation." - Warren Farrell

  • "Empathy for women is an attribute of masculinity. When men play the protector role they are trying to save a woman from grief or pain. If they had no glimpse of her grief or pain, they wouldn’t know when to protect." - Warren Farrell

  • "Teaching the child to treat boundaries seriously teaches the child to respect the rights and needs of others. Thinking of another’s needs creates empathy." - Warren Farrell

  • "When both sexes are offered pay should they assess the feelings of others accurately, the empathy gender gap disappears! The implication? The capacity for empathy and emotional intelligence is latent inside boys and men; we just have to let guys know we’ll value them for focusing on it." - Warren Farrell

  • "Since empathy and emotional intelligence can be taught, and these skills are key to preparing our sons for the professions that will be in the greatest demand, we need to integrate this curriculum into our schools in the formative years." - Warren Farrell

  • "Empathy is a virtue which, when it only goes from parent to child, and is not required of the child, becomes a vice." - Warren Farrell

  • "Between ages thirteen and sixteen, boys show a temporary decline in empathy on a biological level—a decline not suffered by girls." - Warren Farrell

  • "Today, we talk about the dangers of lacking structure and purpose, how the “dad-style” vs. the “mom-style” of parenting actually creates awareness and empathy, how dopamine secretion and other physiological responses assist boys and men in doing the right thing, and the dangers and destructive results of “dad-deprivation." - Warren Farrell



Video: Dr. Warren Farrell to Germany: Why is there a global "Gender Empathy Gap"?

 

 
 
  • Fathers do boundary enforcement.

  • 'there is not a good male / female

  • children develop more empathy when they have a lot of father involvement.

 


Article: The Gender Gap in Empathy
A path to the end of the gender war?
by Marty Nemko, 2020

"This is a guest article by Warren Farrell. the author of The Boy Crisis and The Myth of Male Power. "

  • "A perhaps under-discussed reason for a lack of empathy for men is that it’s protective to not feel too much for someone you may soon lose."

  • "As for the man’s family, when they see only his anger and not the vulnerability of suppressed feelings behind the anger, they may become not empathic, but fearful. They often miss that anger can be vulnerability’s mask. And that blind spot reinforces the gap in gender empathy. It’s hard to feel empathy for a physically stronger, angry man."

  • "As for the man’s family, when they see only his anger and not the vulnerability of suppressed feelings behind the anger, they may become not empathic, but fearful. They often miss that anger can be vulnerability’s mask. And that blind spot reinforces the gap in gender empathy. It’s hard to feel empathy for a physically stronger, angry man.


 

Audio: DR. WARREN FARRELL | The Dangers of Dad-Deprivation
Today, we talk about the dangers of lacking structure and purpose, how the “dad-style” vs. the “mom-style” of parenting actually creates awareness and empathy, how dopamine secretion and other physiological responses assist boys and men in doing the right thing, and the dangers and destructive results of “dad-deprivation.”  Discussing the best way to measure success Teaching children to be empathetic.'