Warren Farrell is an American educator, activist and author
of numerous books on men's and women's issues. He is often considered "the
father of the men's movement," but he started out as a vocal feminist and
was a board member of the New York City chapter of the National
Organization for Women in the early 1970s.
In this interview, we discuss the importance of mutual empathy with men,
woman, children, families and society.
"Empathy is at the core of family stability and love.
I've never had a couple come to me and say,
I want a divorce; my partner understands me."
"Humans have spent (10k+) years learning to fight
and debate with the other side, and almost
no time learning to listen and empathize."
"Teaching the child to treat boundaries seriously teaches the child to respect
the rights and needs of others. Thinking of another's needs creates empathy."
Warren Farrell
"Empathy is at
the core of family stability and love. I’ve never had a couple come to me
and say, I want a divorce; my partner understands me." - Warren Farrell
"Humans have
spent (10k+) years learning to fight and debate with the other side, and
almost no time learning to listen and empathize." - Warren Farrell
"Any guy who’s
played team sports has practiced a skill I call “team sport empathy”: he’s
practiced focusing on anticipating the other team’s moves. That means
figuring out their way of looking at the situation." - Warren Farrell
"Empathy for
women is an attribute of masculinity. When men play the protector role they
are trying to save a woman from grief or pain. If they had no glimpse of her
grief or pain, they wouldn’t know when to protect." - Warren Farrell
"Teaching the
child to treat boundaries seriously teaches the child to respect the rights
and needs of others. Thinking of another’s needs creates empathy." - Warren
Farrell
"When both
sexes are offered pay should they assess the feelings of others accurately,
the empathy gender gap disappears! The implication? The capacity for empathy
and emotional intelligence is latent inside boys and men; we just have to
let guys know we’ll value them for focusing on it." - Warren Farrell
"Since empathy
and emotional intelligence can be taught, and these skills are key to
preparing our sons for the professions that will be in the greatest demand,
we need to integrate this curriculum into our schools in the formative
years." - Warren Farrell
"Empathy is a
virtue which, when it only goes from parent to child, and is not required of
the child, becomes a vice." - Warren Farrell
"Between ages
thirteen and sixteen, boys show a temporary decline in empathy on a
biological level—a decline not suffered by girls." - Warren Farrell
"Today, we
talk about the dangers of lacking structure and purpose, how the “dad-style”
vs. the “mom-style” of parenting actually creates awareness and empathy, how
dopamine secretion and other physiological responses assist boys and men in
doing the right thing, and the dangers and destructive results of
“dad-deprivation." - Warren Farrell
"This is a guest
article by Warren Farrell. the author of The Boy Crisis and The Myth of Male
Power. "
"A perhaps
under-discussed reason for a lack of empathy for men is that it’s protective
to not feel too much for someone you may soon lose."
"As for the
man’s family, when they see only his anger and not the vulnerability of
suppressed feelings behind the anger, they may become not empathic, but
fearful. They often miss that anger can be vulnerability’s mask. And that
blind spot reinforces the gap in gender empathy. It’s hard to feel empathy
for a physically stronger, angry man."
"As for the
man’s family, when they see only his anger and not the vulnerability of
suppressed feelings behind the anger, they may become not empathic, but
fearful. They often miss that anger can be vulnerability’s mask. And that
blind spot reinforces the gap in gender empathy. It’s hard to feel empathy
for a physically stronger, angry man.
Audio: DR. WARREN FARRELL | The Dangers of
Dad-Deprivation Today, we talk about the dangers of lacking structure and purpose,
how the “dad-style” vs. the “mom-style” of parenting actually creates
awareness and empathy, how dopamine secretion and other physiological
responses assist boys and men in doing the right thing, and the dangers
and destructive results of “dad-deprivation.” Discussing the best way to measure success Teaching children to be
empathetic.'
